Stephen T. Fife, Jacob D. Gossner, Alex C. Theobald, E. Allen, Ariana Rivero, Heather Koehl
{"title":"Couple healing from infidelity: A grounded theory study","authors":"Stephen T. Fife, Jacob D. Gossner, Alex C. Theobald, E. Allen, Ariana Rivero, Heather Koehl","doi":"10.1177/02654075231177874","DOIUrl":"https://doi.org/10.1177/02654075231177874","url":null,"abstract":"Infidelity is a common experience in committed relationships that can lead to significant distress for both partners. While many couples end their relationship following infidelity, a significant portion choose to stay together and attempt reconciliation. In our study, we employed constructivist grounded theory to study the process of healing from infidelity for couples who stay together. Our sample consisted of 16 heterosexual couples who experienced sexual infidelity, chose to stay together, and self-identified as having experienced meaningful healing. Couples had an average age of 27 (range = 19– 46), approximate mean length of relationship at infidelity of 3 years (median = 2 years), and approximate mean time since infidelity of 50 months (median = 24 months). We organize our results into a process model of healing that includes four stages: the revelation of the infidelity, initial reactions, stabilizing the relationship, and revitalizing the relationship. The grounded theory suggests there is a developmental progression of healing as couples jointly work to re-establish their relationship. This process includes assessing the damage, affirming commitment, establishing accountability, seeking reconnection, communicating deeply, re-establishing trust, and moving from initial to deeper forgiveness. Our results also suggest that couples’ shared history, sociocultural factors, and receipt of formal and informal support shaped how they experienced the infidelity and engaged in healing. We discuss key clinical implications of the grounded theory, especially related to the role therapy can play in facilitating healing, the importance of open communication and processing emotions, deepening forgiveness, and the reciprocal process of restoring trust.","PeriodicalId":48288,"journal":{"name":"Journal of Social and Personal Relationships","volume":" ","pages":""},"PeriodicalIF":2.8,"publicationDate":"2023-08-14","publicationTypes":"Journal Article","fieldsOfStudy":null,"isOpenAccess":false,"openAccessPdf":"","citationCount":null,"resultStr":null,"platform":"Semanticscholar","paperid":"44784100","PeriodicalName":null,"FirstCategoryId":null,"ListUrlMain":null,"RegionNum":3,"RegionCategory":"心理学","ArticlePicture":[],"TitleCN":null,"AbstractTextCN":null,"PMCID":"","EPubDate":null,"PubModel":null,"JCR":null,"JCRName":null,"Score":null,"Total":0}
Alexis Audigier, S. Glass, Erica B. Slotter, Elizabeth J. Pantesco
{"title":"Tired, angry, and unhappy with us: Poor sleep quality predicts increased anger and worsened perceptions of relationship quality","authors":"Alexis Audigier, S. Glass, Erica B. Slotter, Elizabeth J. Pantesco","doi":"10.1177/02654075231193449","DOIUrl":"https://doi.org/10.1177/02654075231193449","url":null,"abstract":"Existing research demonstrates that poor sleep is associated with lower perceptions of relationship quality. Poor sleep also predicts more intense experiences of negative affect, anger in particular. Greater anger is also tied to worse relationship outcomes. The current research explored the interplay among these factors across three studies: one correlational, one longitudinal, and one quasi-experiment (Total N = 695). We hypothesized that poorer sleep quality would predict worsened perceived relationship quality and increased anger. We also hypothesized that increased anger would account for the association between poorer sleep and reduced perceived relationship quality. Our hypotheses were supported.","PeriodicalId":48288,"journal":{"name":"Journal of Social and Personal Relationships","volume":" ","pages":""},"PeriodicalIF":2.8,"publicationDate":"2023-08-08","publicationTypes":"Journal Article","fieldsOfStudy":null,"isOpenAccess":false,"openAccessPdf":"","citationCount":null,"resultStr":null,"platform":"Semanticscholar","paperid":"47319543","PeriodicalName":null,"FirstCategoryId":null,"ListUrlMain":null,"RegionNum":3,"RegionCategory":"心理学","ArticlePicture":[],"TitleCN":null,"AbstractTextCN":null,"PMCID":"","EPubDate":null,"PubModel":null,"JCR":null,"JCRName":null,"Score":null,"Total":0}
M. Luijk, A. Bülow, S. Boele, Amaranta D. de Haan, J. van der Kaap-Deeder, L. Keijsers
{"title":"Overparenting in adolescents’ everyday life: Development and validation of the momentary overparenting scale","authors":"M. Luijk, A. Bülow, S. Boele, Amaranta D. de Haan, J. van der Kaap-Deeder, L. Keijsers","doi":"10.1177/02654075231192382","DOIUrl":"https://doi.org/10.1177/02654075231192382","url":null,"abstract":"Background. While there is ample theoretical and empirical interest in overparenting, little is known about how overparenting of adolescents operates in everyday family life. This study describes the development and validation of a novel instrument to assess overparenting with Experience Sampling Methods – The Momentary Overparenting (MOP) scale. Methods. Following 143 (Belgian and Dutch) adolescents for 7 subsequent days, we measured overparenting (i.e., worry, interference, and unnecessary help), autonomy support and psychological control 5 to 6 times per day. Using multilevel structural equation modeling on 1865 parent-adolescent interactions, we investigated the scale’s psychometric properties: within-family and between-family reliability, convergent and divergent validity. Results. Overparenting was characterized by both stable differences between families (46%), as well as dynamic fluctuations within families over time (54% of the variance). The MOP could reliably assess such real-time dynamics in overparenting. Momentary assessments correlated meaningfully with established instruments for overparenting at the between-family level. Within families, adolescents experienced interactions with more overparenting as more psychologically controlling and less autonomy supportive. Between families, overparenting correlated negatively with mothers’ autonomy support and positively with mothers’ psychological control. Conclusion. Worry, interference, and unnecessary help may be important expressions of overparenting in everyday family life – which can now be reliably measured from moment-to-moment as a distinct parenting construct.","PeriodicalId":48288,"journal":{"name":"Journal of Social and Personal Relationships","volume":" ","pages":""},"PeriodicalIF":2.8,"publicationDate":"2023-08-07","publicationTypes":"Journal Article","fieldsOfStudy":null,"isOpenAccess":false,"openAccessPdf":"","citationCount":null,"resultStr":null,"platform":"Semanticscholar","paperid":"42034983","PeriodicalName":null,"FirstCategoryId":null,"ListUrlMain":null,"RegionNum":3,"RegionCategory":"心理学","ArticlePicture":[],"TitleCN":null,"AbstractTextCN":null,"PMCID":"","EPubDate":null,"PubModel":null,"JCR":null,"JCRName":null,"Score":null,"Total":0}
{"title":"“I hate all the children, especially mine”: Applying relational dialectics theory to examine the experiences of formerly childfree regretful parents","authors":"E. Hintz, Kristina M. Scharp","doi":"10.1177/02654075231194363","DOIUrl":"https://doi.org/10.1177/02654075231194363","url":null,"abstract":"Guided by relational dialectics theory (RDT), we analyzed 85 first-person testimonials of parental regret written by users of the /r/childfree subreddit. We interrogated how competing discourses animate what it means to be a parent (our semantic object). Contrapuntal analysis revealed dominant and marginalized Discourses of Parenting as Heaven (DPHN) and Parenting as Hell on Earth (DPHL), respectively, as well as a third Discourse of Parenting as (the Only) Choice (DPOC). We identified three kinds of dialogically contractive practices including a new form we call fear of missing out (FOMO), two forms of diachronic separation, four forms of synchronic interplay including a new form we introduce (i.e., allying) that is useful when more than two discourses compete, and one form of dialogic transformation. We argue that FOMO serves as a catalyst for diachronic separation. We offer practical implications for fencesitters (those “on the fence” about having children), counselors, and policymakers.","PeriodicalId":48288,"journal":{"name":"Journal of Social and Personal Relationships","volume":" ","pages":""},"PeriodicalIF":2.8,"publicationDate":"2023-08-03","publicationTypes":"Journal Article","fieldsOfStudy":null,"isOpenAccess":false,"openAccessPdf":"","citationCount":null,"resultStr":null,"platform":"Semanticscholar","paperid":"47587377","PeriodicalName":null,"FirstCategoryId":null,"ListUrlMain":null,"RegionNum":3,"RegionCategory":"心理学","ArticlePicture":[],"TitleCN":null,"AbstractTextCN":null,"PMCID":"","EPubDate":null,"PubModel":null,"JCR":null,"JCRName":null,"Score":null,"Total":0}
{"title":"Parent emotion regulation and parenting self-efficacy: The moderating role of coparenting","authors":"J. R. Calabrese, S. Schoppe-Sullivan","doi":"10.1177/02654075231189464","DOIUrl":"https://doi.org/10.1177/02654075231189464","url":null,"abstract":"Successful parenting involves high parenting self-efficacy (PSE)—one’s belief in their ability to parent successfully—and strong parent emotion regulation (ER)—the capacity to evaluate and modify one’s emotional reactions. Additionally, a cooperative, well-coordinated coparenting relationship is an important source of support for parents. This study examined the associations of parent ER with PSE and considered the moderating role of coparenting. Ninety-nine different-sex couples with school-age children participated. Parents completed survey measures of ER, PSE, and coparenting, as well as an observed coparenting task with their seven-year-old children. Actor-Partner Interdependence Models were used to examine relations between parent ER and PSE moderated by coparenting quality. Among mothers, perceived coparenting moderated the associations of both cognitive reappraisal and expressive suppression with PSE, with the PSE of mothers perceiving lower-quality coparenting relationships benefitting the most from cognitive reappraisal and the PSE of mothers perceiving higher-quality coparenting relationships suffering the most from expressive suppression. Among fathers, observed coparenting moderated the relation between ER strategy and PSE. Expressive suppression was negatively associated with fathers’ PSE when observed coparenting quality was lower, while cognitive reappraisal was positively associated with fathers’ PSE when coparenting quality was higher. The present study contributes to the growing body of research on the associations of parent ER with parental functioning.","PeriodicalId":48288,"journal":{"name":"Journal of Social and Personal Relationships","volume":" ","pages":""},"PeriodicalIF":2.8,"publicationDate":"2023-08-01","publicationTypes":"Journal Article","fieldsOfStudy":null,"isOpenAccess":false,"openAccessPdf":"","citationCount":null,"resultStr":null,"platform":"Semanticscholar","paperid":"46587308","PeriodicalName":null,"FirstCategoryId":null,"ListUrlMain":null,"RegionNum":3,"RegionCategory":"心理学","ArticlePicture":[],"TitleCN":null,"AbstractTextCN":null,"PMCID":"","EPubDate":null,"PubModel":null,"JCR":null,"JCRName":null,"Score":null,"Total":0}
{"title":"Adolescent Exposure to Racially and Ethnically Diverse Neighborhoods and Schools: Implications for Interracial Dating, Cohabitation, and Marriage in Emerging and Young Adulthood","authors":"Xing Zhang","doi":"10.1177/02654075231193451","DOIUrl":"https://doi.org/10.1177/02654075231193451","url":null,"abstract":"Background: Interracial romantic relationships and unions are a marker of social distance between racial and ethnic groups, but the role of geographic context at schools and neighborhoods during adolescence in shaping interracial romantic relationship formation in the transition to adulthood has been underexplored, which is important for understanding how intergroup contact in the school and neighborhood contexts during adolescence may have subsequent consequences for interracial union formation later in emerging and young adulthood. Methods: Using data from Waves I, III, and IV of the National Longitudinal Study of Adolescent to Adult Health, this study examines the roles of exposure to racial and ethnic diversity in schools and geographic regions in adolescence in shaping the likelihood of being in an interracial romantic relationship in emerging and young adulthood. Results: Adolescents who lived in a Census tract that had fewer of their own racial and ethnic groups were significantly more likely to be in interracial romantic relationships in emerging and in young adulthood. Adolescents who attended more racially and ethnically diverse high schools were also more likely to be in interracial romantic relationships in emerging adulthood. In young adulthood, Hispanic adolescents who went to primarily White high schools were more likely to be in interracial romantic relationships in emerging adulthood and young adulthood. Conclusions: Exposure to racially and ethnically diverse neighborhoods and schools is associated with an increased likelihood of interracial union formation in emerging and young adulthood.","PeriodicalId":48288,"journal":{"name":"Journal of Social and Personal Relationships","volume":" ","pages":""},"PeriodicalIF":2.8,"publicationDate":"2023-08-01","publicationTypes":"Journal Article","fieldsOfStudy":null,"isOpenAccess":false,"openAccessPdf":"","citationCount":null,"resultStr":null,"platform":"Semanticscholar","paperid":"49485285","PeriodicalName":null,"FirstCategoryId":null,"ListUrlMain":null,"RegionNum":3,"RegionCategory":"心理学","ArticlePicture":[],"TitleCN":null,"AbstractTextCN":null,"PMCID":"","EPubDate":null,"PubModel":null,"JCR":null,"JCRName":null,"Score":null,"Total":0}
{"title":"“Look at them… wasting that good, white skin”: Exploring messages of white privilege in Black Americans’ family discourse","authors":"L. Nelson, S. Fitzgerald, Darvelle Hutchins","doi":"10.1177/02654075231193441","DOIUrl":"https://doi.org/10.1177/02654075231193441","url":null,"abstract":"Grounded in social constructionism, the present study explored messages Black adults received about white folx and white privilege from family members in childhood and beyond. We conducted retrospective interviews with 19 self-identifying Black adults. Four primary themes emerged from participants’ accounts: (1) Black folx must work harder than white folx, (2) Black folx must be respectful to white folx, (3) Black folx must be cautious when dating or associating with white folx, and (4) Black folx will not get away with as much as white folx. Findings demonstrate how Black adults make sense of their racial identity via family messaging about white folx and white privilege. The current study offers unique theoretical and practical implications. Theoretically, findings illuminate the connection between social constructionism and racial socialization in Black families. Practically, findings reveal ways professionals can increase awareness and understanding of Black folx’ experiences of racial identity development in family contexts. Limitations and future research directions are discussed.","PeriodicalId":48288,"journal":{"name":"Journal of Social and Personal Relationships","volume":"101 5","pages":""},"PeriodicalIF":2.8,"publicationDate":"2023-07-28","publicationTypes":"Journal Article","fieldsOfStudy":null,"isOpenAccess":false,"openAccessPdf":"","citationCount":null,"resultStr":null,"platform":"Semanticscholar","paperid":"41271313","PeriodicalName":null,"FirstCategoryId":null,"ListUrlMain":null,"RegionNum":3,"RegionCategory":"心理学","ArticlePicture":[],"TitleCN":null,"AbstractTextCN":null,"PMCID":"","EPubDate":null,"PubModel":null,"JCR":null,"JCRName":null,"Score":null,"Total":0}
{"title":"Voices of (m)otherhood: Listening to the experiences of single and childless women","authors":"R. Chan, Larissa Rossen, Janelle L. Kwee","doi":"10.1177/02654075231190847","DOIUrl":"https://doi.org/10.1177/02654075231190847","url":null,"abstract":"Single and childless women over the age of 35 constitute an expanding demographic in North America and many parts of the world, yet our society continues to place importance on marriage and family as markers of life success. This study explored how eight single (never-married) and childless women experience themselves during early midlife (ages 35–45) utilizing the Listening Guide method of analysis. Three categories of participant voices were uncovered in this research: voices which conveyed the positivity of living a single and childless identity (i.e. the voices of hope, faith, gratitude, nurturance, freedom, and resilience), voices which conveyed the struggles of living a single and childless identity (i.e. the voices of invisibility, shame, confusion, loneliness, guilt, longing, and uncertain waiting), and the voice of ambivalence. Implications for clinical practice and research are discussed.","PeriodicalId":48288,"journal":{"name":"Journal of Social and Personal Relationships","volume":" ","pages":""},"PeriodicalIF":2.8,"publicationDate":"2023-07-19","publicationTypes":"Journal Article","fieldsOfStudy":null,"isOpenAccess":false,"openAccessPdf":"","citationCount":null,"resultStr":null,"platform":"Semanticscholar","paperid":"45598906","PeriodicalName":null,"FirstCategoryId":null,"ListUrlMain":null,"RegionNum":3,"RegionCategory":"心理学","ArticlePicture":[],"TitleCN":null,"AbstractTextCN":null,"PMCID":"","EPubDate":null,"PubModel":null,"JCR":null,"JCRName":null,"Score":null,"Total":0}
{"title":"Artificial intelligence and perceived effort in relationship maintenance: Effects on relationship satisfaction and uncertainty","authors":"Bingjie Liu, Jin Kang, Lewen Wei","doi":"10.1177/02654075231189899","DOIUrl":"https://doi.org/10.1177/02654075231189899","url":null,"abstract":"Maintaining satisfying close relationships is important for individuals’ well-being. In the digital age, artificial intelligence (AI) has growing applications for relationship maintenance and thus implications for relational well-being. We hypothesize that although using AI to help with relational maintenance may reduce an individual’s effort, their partner may perceive AI-augmented activities negatively. According to the investment model and equity theory, perceptions of diminished effort in a relationship may lead to less satisfaction and greater uncertainty about the partner’s involvement in the relationship. In an online experiment, we presented participants ( N = 208) with hypothetical scenarios of relational maintenance initiated by a fictional close friend, with a 3 (agency: self-without-augmentation vs. AI-augmented vs. human-augmented) × 3 (relational task: support-giving vs. advice-giving vs. birthday celebration) between-subjects design. Compared to the self-without-augmentation condition (i.e., the control condition) where the friend completed a relational task with no external aid, using AI assistance led participants to perceive the friend expended less effort, reducing participants’ relationship satisfaction and increasing uncertainty. Getting help from another person was not significantly different from using AI in terms of perceived partner effort, relationship satisfaction, uncertainty, and perceived appropriateness. We discuss the implications of the findings for relational maintenance and technology-mediated communication.","PeriodicalId":48288,"journal":{"name":"Journal of Social and Personal Relationships","volume":" ","pages":""},"PeriodicalIF":2.8,"publicationDate":"2023-07-18","publicationTypes":"Journal Article","fieldsOfStudy":null,"isOpenAccess":false,"openAccessPdf":"","citationCount":null,"resultStr":null,"platform":"Semanticscholar","paperid":"41412733","PeriodicalName":null,"FirstCategoryId":null,"ListUrlMain":null,"RegionNum":3,"RegionCategory":"心理学","ArticlePicture":[],"TitleCN":null,"AbstractTextCN":null,"PMCID":"","EPubDate":null,"PubModel":null,"JCR":null,"JCRName":null,"Score":null,"Total":0}
{"title":"Relationship Stress, Arguments, and Sleep Quality: A Causal Process Analysis","authors":"K. Haydon, J. Salvatore","doi":"10.1177/02654075231190592","DOIUrl":"https://doi.org/10.1177/02654075231190592","url":null,"abstract":"Using a dyadic intensive longitudinal design, we examined bidirectional links between daily relationship tension and actigraphy-measured sleep quality and whether attachment and post-conflict recovery behavior moderated these effects. A community sample of cohabiting couples ( N = 208 dyads) completed a laboratory-based conflict discussion and a 14-day diary study of arguments and relationship stress. Each night, participants wore actigraphy monitors to assess wakefulness after sleep onset (WASO), an indicator of poor sleep quality. WASO was higher on days of especially high relationship stress but was not associated with next-day relationship stress or arguments. Attachment anxiety and avoidance exacerbated associations between more frequent arguments and higher WASO, and between higher WASO and higher next-day relationship stress. Partner conflict recovery buffered links between higher WASO and more frequent arguments, and between higher relationship stress and higher WASO. This study, one of the few to incorporate behavioral observation and actigraphy-measured sleep quality, identified novel moderators of bidirectional associations between sleep quality and relationship tension, underscoring the significance of dyadic buffering processes on sleep quality.","PeriodicalId":48288,"journal":{"name":"Journal of Social and Personal Relationships","volume":" ","pages":""},"PeriodicalIF":2.8,"publicationDate":"2023-07-17","publicationTypes":"Journal Article","fieldsOfStudy":null,"isOpenAccess":false,"openAccessPdf":"","citationCount":null,"resultStr":null,"platform":"Semanticscholar","paperid":"41644165","PeriodicalName":null,"FirstCategoryId":null,"ListUrlMain":null,"RegionNum":3,"RegionCategory":"心理学","ArticlePicture":[],"TitleCN":null,"AbstractTextCN":null,"PMCID":"","EPubDate":null,"PubModel":null,"JCR":null,"JCRName":null,"Score":null,"Total":0}