From Ego to Eco: A Theory U Framework for Understanding Parental Transformation in Families of Children With Behavioral Problems

Abstract

This article introduces the first systematic adaptation of Scharmer's Theory U to the parenting domain, offering an innovative theoretical framework for understanding parental transformation in families of children with behavioral problems. Transformative change is conceptualized as a U‐shaped developmental journey from ego‐based, reactive caregiving toward eco‐based, relationally attuned parenting. Four developmental phases represent core psychological dimensions in parental transformation, with transitions facilitated by key capacities in regulation, vulnerability, cooperation, and fluctuation. By integrating attachment, mentalization, and polyvagal theories, the framework synthesizes disparate approaches into a unified conceptual model. The framework posits that meaningful parenting change involves not only skill acquisition but deeper shifts in presence and meaning‐making, enabling new parent–child dynamics that support behavioral improvement. The framework advances family science by illuminating how parental consciousness evolves from reactive patterns to integrative, relation‐centered capacities. Clinical implementation requires individualized assessment recognizing families' diverse cultural contexts, attachment histories, and developmental starting points.