Method and Antimethod: Reflecting on Keguro Macharia’s Frottage

our society’s deep attachment to particular concepts of family. In reading Frottage, I wondered why we form such attachments. Perhaps we hold on to the genealogical imperative and to the family, because they have been imbued with so much social power – reinforced. Or perhaps it is that the work of relation – of being together – is already difficult and the structures of hetero-kinship are within the closest reach. Perhaps the attachment stems from wanting belonging; something to offer repair in the face of displacement. Regardless of the reason for the attachment, abolitionist thought refuses the acceptance of the current configuration of the world. Abolitionist though dares and demands us to imagine alternatives. In line with this, Macharia’s question “How do you want to be touched?” needs us to flesh out its answers. Taking this further, throughout Frottage, an underlying question reverberates: “How are we being held together?” Macharia thinks of relation as frottage – as rubbing together; the persistent, recurring meeting of bodies in space – and in doing so, prompts us to touch in more meaningful ways. For one, the concept does respond to differences by trying to conceal them. Within it, irritation is to be expected, rather than suppressed – it functions as a part of intimacy. This perspective on dealing with difference, in my view, has the potential to strengthen our collectives. In adopting Macharia’s perspective on intimacy, we might manage to sustain touch until it becomes holding. I love that there is potential for us to be held.