Black Girl Magic: Strength, Resiliency, and Suffering? A Qualitative Exploration of Toxic Black Femininity and Intimate Partner Violence

This phenomenological study explored the lived experiences of six Black women who survived Intimate Partner Violence (IPV) through the frameworks of Toxic Black Femininity (TBF), Post-Traumatic Slave Syndrome, and Intersectionality to understand how coping with ongoing systemic racism influences meaning making of IPV experiences and help-seeking behaviors. Participants discussed how narratives within Black families and churches influenced how they coped with the trauma symptoms resulting from their IPV victimization and navigate relationships now. Specifically, participants’ experience of TBF and associated adherence to racial and gendered norms and stereotypes showed up as: 1) a felt pressure to portray strength, 2) rationalize the abuse, 3) advocate for their partner’s needs but not their own, and 4) blame themselves for the abuse. Further, when participants sought help, they: 1) avoided actions that could lead to police involvement due to fear of police brutality against their male partners, 2) had their hurt minimized due to white expectations of Blackness, 3) heard narratives from family and religious systems that reinforced TBF and their decision to stay in the harmful relationship, and 4) turned their frustrations with the lack of helpful support systems into advocacy. These findings highlight the intergenerational transmission of survival skills and narratives that have been passed down to Black women since the time of slavery and how systemic racism and TBF keep these narratives in play.