How to Cancel Plans With Friends: A Mixed Methods Study of Strategy and Experience

IF 3.1 3区心理学 Q1 PSYCHOLOGY, MULTIDISCIPLINARY

Collabra-Psychology Pub Date : 2023-01-01 DOI:10.1525/collabra.57549

Sophia Caron, Jacqueline Thomas, Alaina Torres, Jeewon Oh, W. Chopik

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Abstract

Being cancelled on is inevitable. However, maintaining friendships is important and cancelled plans may evoke feelings of disappointment. To prevent this, we examined ways to go about cancelling plans that would not negatively impact friendships. Our study examined what people consider appropriate and inappropriate reasons and the best methods to cancel plans. A variety of close-ended and open-ended questions regarding what participants believed was a reasonable excuse for cancelling and the worst excuse for cancelling was asked. Participants were also asked about how cancelled plans made them feel. Among 1,192 people (72.5% women; 71.8% White), the majority of the participants wanted advanced notice and/or a quick call/text when plans are being cancelled. Health or family reasons were among the most reasonable excuses. Conversely, excuses regarding a better offer, such as finding something better to do, were among the most unacceptable reasons to cancel plans. Over 80% of the sample reported feeling annoyed when they found out that an excuse to cancel was a lie. Honoring commitments is essential to maintaining friendships, which is associated with better health and well-being. When breaking commitments, the best way to go about it is to cancel in advance and have honest and reasonable excuses which serve to maintain friendships that are a fundamental part of life and satisfy the need to belong.

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如何取消与朋友的约会:策略与经验的混合方法研究

被取消是不可避免的。然而，维持友谊很重要，取消计划可能会引起失望的感觉。为了防止这种情况，我们研究了取消不会对友谊产生负面影响的计划的方法。我们的研究调查了人们认为合适和不合适的理由，以及取消计划的最佳方法。关于参与者认为什么是取消的合理借口和最糟糕的取消借口，各种封闭式和开放式的问题被问到。参与者还被问及取消计划对他们的影响。在1192人中(72.5%为女性;71.8%白人)，大多数参与者希望在计划取消时提前通知和/或快速打电话/发短信。健康或家庭原因是最合理的借口。相反，关于更好的工作机会的借口，比如找更好的事情做，是最让人无法接受的取消计划的理由。超过80%的受访者表示，当他们发现取消约会的借口是谎言时，他们会感到恼火。履行承诺对维持友谊至关重要，这与更好的健康和幸福有关。当违背承诺时，最好的方法是提前取消，并有诚实合理的借口，这有助于维持友谊，这是生活的基本组成部分，并满足归属感的需要。

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Collabra-Psychology PSYCHOLOGY, MULTIDISCIPLINARY-

CiteScore

3.60

自引率

4.00%

发文量

审稿时长

16 weeks

期刊介绍： Collabra: Psychology has 7 sections representing the broad field of psychology, and a highlighted focus area of “Methodology and Research Practice.” Are: Cognitive Psychology Social Psychology Personality Psychology Clinical Psychology Developmental Psychology Organizational Behavior Methodology and Research Practice.