Between the Familiar and the Stranger: Attachment Security, Mutual Desire, and Reclaimed Love

Jill Gentile
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This article explores the idea that relationships of attachment security are simultaneously relationships of mutual desire. Seen through this lens, separation and reunion behavior become increasingly psychologically charged: infant and mother as well as patient and analyst must revisit their willingness to expose their desire in each encounter. By recognizing that personal agency is vital to both healthy attachment and romantic desire, we can begin to appreciate the dawning of romantic desire, not so much as promoting “separation-individuation” as often conceived, but as exerting a gravitational pull to revisit an original love—one that is now erotically reconceived. We reclaim an original love but now in a relational context between mother and the Other, the pre-Oedipal and the Oedipal, the familiar and the stranger.
在熟悉与陌生之间:依恋、安全、相互渴望和重获的爱
本文探讨了依恋安全关系同时也是相互渴望关系的观点。从这个角度来看,分离和团聚的行为变得越来越充满心理负担:婴儿和母亲以及患者和分析者必须重新审视他们在每次相遇中暴露自己欲望的意愿。通过认识到个人能动性对健康的依恋和浪漫的欲望都是至关重要的,我们可以开始欣赏浪漫欲望的曙光,而不是像通常想象的那样促进“分离-个性化”,而是像施加引力一样重新审视原始的爱-现在被情欲重新构想。我们找回了最初的爱,但现在是在母亲和他者,前俄狄浦斯和俄狄浦斯,熟悉的和陌生的关系背景下。
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