Regretting mother- and fatherhood in Switzerland: Equal parenthood regret but for different reasons

Abstract

Objective

This article investigates the prevalence of and factors associated with parenthood regret in Switzerland.

Background

There is increasing evidence that parenthood regrets occur both in mothers and fathers, but little is known about their causes and how they relate to gendered norms and conditions of parenthood.

Method

Based on a representative nationwide sample (1,923 women and 1,461 men), this study used the crosswise-model design to address the sensitive question of parenthood regrets. The analysis is based on logistic regression models that are guided by directed acyclic graphs.

Results

An equal share (29%) of women and men at least sometimes regret parenthood. Fathers who view children as a source of reputation regret parenthood more often. Fathers who view children as a source of new ideas are less likely to regret parenthood. For mothers, circumstances, in particular age and relationship quality, are more important factors.

Conclusion

Mothers and fathers experience parenthood regret at similar rates. Although conditions of parenthood are especially important for mothers, fathers are more impacted by norms surrounding parenthood.

Implications

Family policies should focus on improving parenting conditions by addressing financial and caregiving burdens and specifically support men in strengthening their ability to make informed and intentional parenting decisions.