Patterns of Relationships in Polygamous Families in Malaysia

Abstract

The purpose of this study was to identify patterns of relationships in polygamous families in Malaysia. A total of six families were interviewed. This involved 21 respondents consisting of six husbands, five first wives, five second wives, one third and fourth wife, as well as three children. In-depth, face-to-face interviews were conducted based on the interview questions. Interviews were transcribed and analyzed using thematic analysis and six themes emerged as follows: relationships of warmth and rejuvenation; use of multi-way communication and a veto; valuing straightforward and deep conversations; feeling well treated as long as comparisons can be avoided; maintaining close relationships; and fair and friendly treatment. The findings of this study are expected to help mitigate the perception that polygamous families always produce bad family environments and are dysfunctional. Instead it is shown that polygamous families often produce more positive, better relationships than those in monogamous marriages. The findings of the study are explained, and major implications discussed, in detail.