Infidelity in Dating Relationships

Abstract Even though research on dating infidelity has been conducted for years, it still contends with limitations, including over reliance on heterosexual college student samples and a lack of longitudinal research on patterns and long-term effects of infidelity. Still, the limited research reveals that college students use very broad criteria for defining dating infidelity. Effectively, almost any form of emotional or sexual intimacy with a person other than one's primary dating partner qualifies as infidelity. Relying on such broad criteria, the studies reveal that many, if not most, students have engaged in some form of infidelity. Extradyadic involvements generally involve flirtation and passionate kissing, which culminate in sexual intercourse for nearly half of male students and one third of female students. The majority of students disapprove of infidelity in virtually all circumstances, although it may be more excusable if it occurs because the primary relationship is troubled or because of an irresistible attraction to another person. Reactions to a partner's infidelity are almost invariably negative, often involving termination of the relationship. Motives for infidelity are varied, but they are usually tied to concerns or problems in the primary relationship. Degree of commitment to one's primary relationship is a significant predictor of risk for infidelity. Sexually permissive attitudes and attachment styles that involve anxiety over abandonment may predict likelihood of engaging in dating infidelity. Additionally, individual differences, such as low “conscientiousness,” may play a role.