When Religion is its Own Worst Enemy: How Therapists Can Help People Shed Hurtful Notions That Masquerade as Good Theology

It is well known that religious beliefs are influential in forming the attitudes and behaviors of people regarding their sexual expression. It is less well known that a significant obstacle to sexual health and spiritual growth results from inadequate or distorted theological notions that masquerade as authentic teaching of faith communities. Three common distortions of religious belief—tenets about suffering, morality, and “God's plan”—may stand in the way of personal growth and social well being. The tests of good theology that are systematically applied by working theologians can also be understood and applied by therapists and individual seekers. This process may help remove the obstacles of low self-esteem, false guilt, and superstition that stall true spiritual growth. Religion and spirituality are not the enemies of sexual health and social well being. False or distorted interpretations of religious belief are hurtful; these can and should be unmasked and replaced.