A Descriptive Qualitative Analysis of Gay Men’s Recollection of Parental Similarities and Differences in Their Approaches to Talking about Sexual Orientation and Sexual Behaviors

Abstract This qualitative study examined gay men’s recalled conversations about sexual identity and sexual behaviors with both their mothers and fathers. Thirteen interviews with gay men, ages 19-30, were analyzed using the iterative inductive and deductive processes related to descriptive qualitative analysis. Results showed that parents initially assumed their sons were heterosexual, initially viewed homosexuality as a sin, engaged in conversations around sexual safety, and provided limited HIV information in these conversations. However, mothers approached these conversations with broader emotional reactions to their son’s sexuality, while fathers displayed narrower sentimental ranges and provided more tangible, less emotional support for their sons. Though these mothers and fathers were accepting of their sons, they drew from their socialized gender experiences when engaging in these conversations. Recommendations guiding parents and children to start or continue in such conversations are provided.