Handbook of Digital Inequality: A Review

for men’s gendered feelings surrounding these transitions. Men also described women remaining with men in long-term relationships following erectile dysfunction or changes associated with aging that made sex less possible as affirming their gendered sense of themselves as masculine as well. Men confessing declines in their feelings of sexual desire, for instance, also discussed concerns that women might no longer be interested in them. Men in committed relationships discussed being worried about keeping their partners sexually satisfied. And many men in committed relationships discussed fears that the women in those relationships with them would leave if sexual intercourse was no longer a part of their lives—though Montemurro did find that in her sample, upper-middle-class men, white men, and men in long-term committed relationships were less likely to share these fears. Getting It, Having It, Keeping It Up is easily among the most extensive qualitative studies of cisgender straight men’s sexual lives over the life course with which I am familiar. Montemurro is a talented interviewer. I think it’s worth noting that the interviews were conducted primarily by a woman. I wonder whether I or another man would have elicited the same types of information from the men in this study or whether speaking with another man would have produced less information. Among the most difficult parts of this book to read were the quotes from men in their 50s and 60s still struggling with many of the same gendered concerns brought up by men in their 20s. The oldest men in the sample were not immune from the conflicts and concerns surrounding sex experienced by the youngest men in the sample. While the study does not follow men into their 70s, 80s, and beyond, it suggests many of these gendered sexual struggles go unresolved in cisgender straight men’s lives. Additionally, alongside the anxiety and shame that characterize a large portion of men’s confessions in this book are declarations of sexual entitlement and both casual and more overt forms of misogyny. We learn about the shifting landscape of gender and sexual inequality in new ways by better understanding cisgender straight men’s conflicted relationships with women and sex. I hope that this book is widely read and taught. Getting It, Having It, Keeping It Up should be read by students and scholars alike. It is at once deeply accessible and engaged with an enormous body of scholarship and theory to help us better understand cisgender straight men’s sexualities in public and private over the course of their lives. The data, discussion, and analysis here provide new starting points for diverse research projects on a host of contemporary issues related to cisgender straight men’s sexualities.