Battling Alone on Multiple Fronts - How Gender Norms Affect the Soldiers' Wife as Caregiver in India.

Objectives: Women form the backbone of caregiving in palliative home care throughout the world. They put in more intense care for longer hours, perform more intimate tasks, and face more physical and mental strain, comorbidities, anxiety, and depression. However, gender norms that perceive caregiving as a natural part of femininity dismiss this as part of their duty toward their family, thus making their care work invisible, taken for granted, and devalued. This results in women bearing more burden with less support and no appreciation and suffering more negative mental and physical health outcomes than men. Globally, women perform 76.2% of unpaid care work. India ranks a dismal - 135 out of 146 countries in the 2022 Gender Gap report. Less than 10% of Indian men participate in household work. Women in rural India continue to be less educated; the majority are not allowed to travel alone and are culturally not involved in decision-making, which is done by the males. Wives of armed forces personnel are forced to live without their husbands for long periods. This leads to even more challenges when they also need to take care of patients with life-limiting illnesses. No study has been done on this population till now. This study aimed to explore the experiences of the women in armed forces families, caring at home for patients with palliative needs.

Materials and methods: This was a qualitative study based on a thematic analysis of semi-structured interviews with adult caregivers - either serving personnel or their dependent family members.

Results: Female relatives were the main caregivers in 13 cases; the majority belonged to rural areas, were between 22 and 47 years of age, most were married, had young children, and reported health issues of their own. Major themes that emerged include lack of information, the expectation of being a caregiver irrespective of ability/needs, physical and psychological burden, neglected emotional needs, difficulty in traveling alone, social isolation, loss of employment with the financial burden, stigmatisation and ill-treatment of widows by in-laws.

Conclusion: 'Soldier's wives, who must stay alone, face increased burdens as they face not only the physical and emotional burden of caregiving but also the additional challenges of living alone, mostly in rural Indian society, where gender norms are still deeply ingrained. Creating awareness about this vulnerable community among palliative care providers is required to improve services for them. There is also an urgent need for identifying, challenging, and addressing stereotyped roles and disparities in healthcare systems, practices, care goals, and policies by sensitising staff, educating families, developing gender-sensitive resources and support systems, initiating care discussions, and undertaking more gender-related research.