Getting to Adoption

Chapter 1 explores the factors that influenced couples’ decision to pursue adoption, as well as their feelings, hopes, and fears surrounding adoption. Some couples—particularly heterosexual couples—recounted years of struggling to conceive, often with the help of painful, invasive, and expensive fertility drugs and treatments. Others described genetic or medical barriers to conceiving. This chapter also addresses the kinds of circumstances, beliefs, and experiences that fostered participants’ openness to adoption as a path to parenthood. For example, having family members who were adopted enabled a basic familiarity with adoption as a family-building route, making it less “foreign” than it was to some people—and served as evidence that biogenetic ties were not prerequisites for family membership and love.