Women in love and men at work

Heterosexual love is often assumed to be intimacy between two very differently gendered beings. This paper focuses on how gender difference is constructed in relation to love and emotionality in intimate relationships by juxtaposing evolutionary psychological approaches with a narrative, social constructionist and feminist approach. Evolutionary theory, in its most common form, supports notions of ‘natural’ differences, with love for children and partner seen as part of maximizing the reproduction of genes. In contrast, social constructionists call into question the ‘naturalness’ of any such notions by highlighting how they are continually reproduced through currently available linguistic resources and narratives. From this perspective, the experience of, and emotional approach to, heterosexual love is constrained by the stories able to speak or write of them. After outlining these different perspectives, this paper contributes to the debate on gender and emotion by analysing twenty-two in-depth, one-to-o...