If love is blind, then hate cannot see: hate within enduring parenting disputes

Q1 Social Sciences
Leanne Francia, P. Millear, R. Sharman
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Abstract

Abstract Drawing on interviews with separated mothers (N = 36) this Australian qualitative study explored “hate” in a child custody context within enduring parenting disputes. This preliminary study observed that hate may be present within enduring parenting disputes. A conceptualization of hate, being circular theory of hate in co-parental conflict was developed which tentatively proposes that in a post separation context, hate may functionally serve as a self-protective mechanism that enables a parent to avoid experiencing their own emotions; avoid confronting or taking responsibility for their own behavior; or avoid facing their own lived experiences. Three themes emerged from the study that may contribute to understanding hate’s genesis, growth, and stability post separation. Firstly, an inability or unwillingness to self-reflect, secondly, inverse caring, and thirdly, relentlessness. Practitioners working with hate in a child custody context may consider these tentative observations when identifying barriers parents might experience that prevent them from keeping their child’s needs front and center following separation.
如果爱是盲目的,那么仇恨就看不见:仇恨存在于持久的育儿纠纷中
摘要:澳大利亚的一项定性研究通过对36位离异母亲的访谈,探讨了在持久的育儿纠纷中,孩子监护权背景下的“仇恨”。这项初步研究发现,仇恨可能存在于长期的育儿纠纷中。一种关于共同父母冲突中仇恨的循环理论提出了仇恨的概念化,该理论初步提出,在分离后的背景下,仇恨可能在功能上作为一种自我保护机制,使父母能够避免经历自己的情绪;避免面对或为自己的行为承担责任;或者避免面对自己的生活经历。研究中出现了三个主题,可能有助于理解仇恨的起源、增长和分离后的稳定性。第一,没有能力或不愿意自我反省,第二,相反的关心,第三,无情。在儿童监护背景下处理仇恨的从业者在确定父母可能遇到的障碍时,可能会考虑这些初步观察结果,这些障碍可能会阻止他们在分离后将孩子的需求放在首位和中心。
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Journal of Child Custody
Journal of Child Custody FAMILY STUDIES-
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期刊介绍: Since the days of Solomon, child custody issues have demanded extraordinary wisdom and insight. The Journal of Child Custody gives you access to the ideas, opinions, and experiences of leading experts in the field and keeps you up-to-date with the latest developments in the field as well as discussions elucidating complex legal and psychological issues. While it will not shy away from controversial topics and ideas, the Journal of Child Custody is committed to publishing accurate, balanced, and scholarly articles as well as insightful reviews of relevant books and literature.
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