Farewell Ceremonies: How Older People Practice Death and Bereavement.

Abstract

Later life is often seen as a time of losses. Through the death of loved ones and the dwindling of bodily capacities, older people are increasingly confronted with their own mortality. As losses accrue across different domains, they form a unique existential vantage point. We aim to shed light on this understudied dimension of later life by analysing older people's everyday practices of sense-making. Drawing on the findings of a qualitative interview study (n=16, aged 65-93), we identify three distinct practices by which older people make sense of death and bereavement: timing, communing, and missing. We conceptualise these practices as "farewell ceremonies," a term we borrow from Simone de Beauvoir. The "farewell ceremony" describes a period of incremental goodbyes, which characterised the last ten years of Jean-Paul Sartre as well as the death process of Beauvoir's mother Françoise. Beauvoir captures these farewell ceremonies in her memoirs Adieux: A Farewell to Sartre and A Very Easy Death, which frame our philosophical reflection on practices of timing, communing, and missing. Bringing together Beauvoir's literary and philosophical work with our empirical findings, we propose an integrated view on death and bereavement in later life that centres the intertwining perspectives of self and other.