Exploring the motivations and dynamics of older French-speaking men settled in Thailand.

Abstract

This paper examines the motivations and experiences of older French-speaking men who relocate to Thailand driven by the desire for a more fulfilling and liberated lifestyle that contrasts with their experiences in their home countries. Through an analysis of video interviews with 31 expatriates available online, the study reveals a prevalent trend among these men to initially engage in short-term sexual relationships, enjoying the freedoms of Thailand's vibrant social scene. However, as they acclimate to their new environment, a significant shift towards long-term partnerships is observed, marking a transition from transient interactions to more meaningful connections. Members of this group often form relationships with Thai women typically between the ages of 25 and 45. Contrary to common stereotypes, the research reveals that men often seek long-term partnerships over casual relationships. Although they may initially engage with multiple short-term partners, over time a clear preference for stable, committed relationships emerges. It is important to distinguish these sustained partnerships from buying sex, as the women involved are better described as freelancers who provide a range of services - from caregiving to companionship - similar to a contractual marriage or being a so-called rented wife, typically for an average of 500-700 euros per month.