The Mind of the Abuser

Abstract

Method What It Looks Like Example(s) Excuse-Making The abuser makes excuses to justify his behavior. -“My parents never loved me.” -“My parents beat me.” -“I had a bad day, and when I walked in and saw this mess, I lost my temper.” Blaming The abuser shifts responsibility for abusive actions from themselves to others. This allows them to be angry with the other person. “If you would keep your mouth shut while I am disciplining the kids, I wouldn’t hit you.”