Vade-mecum for the elderly and for elderly care

Introducing and providing insight into many facets, aspects, challenges and problems of the elderly, of ageing and care for elderly, a comprehensive elaboration is made of Nestors: elderly and very elderly. Special attention is given to the issue if and when “do elderly couples become like cat and dog”. Intensively is discussed the impact of dyssocials, psychopaths or persons with antisocial personality characteristics in their efforts to abuse the elderly and how these can defend themselves. Between the many topics treated in the book are the problem of dementia and the challenges of the nestors’ intimacy and sexuality’ in these circumstances and in general. The challenges of intra and outside the family violence on and by the elderly is treated. From this perspective some reflections are made on other challenges of elderly and care for the elderly, especially on the need for support of conflict resolution in a specialized Nestor Juridical court. Moreover one needs to have attention for elderly people and their problems with loss of access to and leaving behind their goods, possessions, collections, knickknacks with emotional memories, etc. Nevertheless, we must also keep in mind that the group of nestors, like the group of children and actually like all age groups, is a highly variable group. Each member with his own perspective, wishes, possibilities, experiences, yet also with his many always increasing shortcomings and declining abilities. Hereby we must also not forget the reversal of values that takes place. After all, in human life we often witness the elderly helping, dominating, directing the young, even if this is sometimes unjustified and inefficient. In elderlies: the nestors, we see the opposite : young people, even children help, correct,... punish, etc. sometimes the elderlies. Yet some elderlies remain dominant, even when they are very old: even as company leaders, presidents, kings,... This makes not at all easier the challenge to integrating and building a harmonious society with a strong increasing ageing population.